There are so many misconceptions on what it means to be Black in America, not only from White Americans, but also from Black Americans.
Before being quirky, dyeing your hair pastel colors and liking alternative music as a Black person became as acceptable as it is becoming now, many Black people were questioned or bullied about their so-called “White people” behaviors.
Over those years, Black people with these behaviors have been able to find other Black people with similar interests by labeling themselves as “quirky Black people”, “alternative Black people”, “carefree Black people” or “soft Black girls” on the internet. Of course, we would love to leave the “Black” adjective out of it and just be considered as people with interests, but our society isn’t that evolved yet.
What I find funny is that the same Black people that picked on Black people for being quirky and alternative are now upset that we are proudly labeling ourselves this way. I’ve been attacked so many times online from so-called, “pro-Black” people who think that I hate myself or am complaining about something. I’ve talked to other online creators who consider themselves to be quirky, alternative, goth or soft, and they have been given the same backlash.
So not to speak for every quirky, alternative, goth or soft Black person out there, but we are tired of these attacks in the name of “pro-Blackness”. If Black people can call themselves “boujee” and “savage” without their pro-Blackness being challenged, what’s wrong with others calling themselves, quirky or alternative while also being pro-Black?
In short, here are 7 things that we are tired of hearing from other Black people:
1. So you want to be White?
2. Well, Rock music originated from African Americans, you know!
Sooo….why are you still mad that I listen to it?
3. Why do you hate yourself?
I’d say that after about a decade of getting your identity questioned, having a few self-identity crises, and living to tell the story, you learn to love yourself and your Blackness.
4. What, you think you are special because you listen to different music?
You said that…not me.
5. So what you got picked on for liking different music and dying your hair! There are more important things to worry about. You just want a reason to complain.
When you’ve been silenced and put down for so long for being yourself and finally get the courage to say something, you speak. It doesn’t matter if it’s becoming more socially acceptable. People are still complaining about things that happened decades and centuries ago. Why can’t we talk about issues that are as recent as a few years ago? Don’t silence us the way that you wouldn’t want to be silenced.
6. Why do you consider yourself quirky, alternative, goth or soft? You got a problem with just being a regular Black person?
The same reason you consider yourself “bad & boujee”…
7. What’s your problem with hip hop/rap/R&B?
Who said that you can’t listen to more that a handful of various music genres? This is news to me…
So in other words, what we like, what we listen to, the way we talk and the way we dress doesn’t make anyone more or less Black.
What off the wall comments have you received for being yourself?
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